Is Online Dating Destroying Love!?

Imagine standing in a room with millions of people, all trying to pitch themselves to you. How overwhelming would it be to be told to pick one? This is one of the many reasons why online dating is destroying our ability to fall in love and stay in love. Having an online profile gives you access to pretty much anyone in the world and with so many people it makes it difficult to choose one. There is one thing that has stuck in my mind when researching this topic and it’s a quote from an online article saying “when you look at their profiles they’re all the same”. Everyone is trying to achieve this “perfect” type and ultimately end up becoming the same thing you read five minutes ago. “Great job, loves to talk, wants commitment, blah blah blah”.

                This need to be perfect stems from the fact that Hollywood has been pushing these unrealistic expectations on men and women since the beginning of their life. From princess movies to romantic comedies, there’s always a guy who makes a mistake and ends up having to chase after the girl. This has really damaged the fact that that’s not how life works sometimes.

                Online dating has taken away the key parts of what are now called “old-fashioned” relationships. There is no space, no time apart, no need to miss anyone because you are in constant contact with them. Texting has replaced talking and has built a barrier around our actual ability to have a conversation. I’ve met so many people in person after talking to them through text that can’t even hold a conversation, but we could text for days.

      Having the only source of communication be through texting or online chatting takes away the aspect of even building a commitment with one another. It’s so easy to hurt and leave someone when you haven’t built any real commitment with them. Texting blocks the ability to actually build a trustworthy, loving relationship. You don’t get to know the real partner, you get to know their computer screen.

 It’s so easy to fall in love with someone’s words when you know nothing about their personality or even their life. Anyone can say “perfect” things or make beautiful sentences. Google is a beautiful thing these days, and allows anyone to form a perfect, “prince-charming” front.

                With a lack of actual communication, no space, and no time together, future relationships are only going to get worse. People will stop committing and start this never ending cycle of talking to different people because we’ve lost the ability to commit. Technology is a great thing but it is coming in the way of what really matters.